There was a young girl in her early 20’s who was feeling very sad and dejected. She cries each day as she nursed her deep emotional hurts and pain. The pain of being rejected by her boyfriend. The pain of rejecting her own self. She wrestles with intense feelings of guilt and regrets. She was experiencing a breakup in her relationship. This is her second failed relationship. When she was young, she have always felt that she is the “black sheep” in her family.
Why are there so much rejection in this world? Human being are not products , goods or comodity. We may reject damaged goods, imperfect products or poor quality crops. But the way we treat human being should never be like the way we handle manufacturing items.
We need to learn to be more nurturing and accepting. We need to be less self-centered. There must be more understanding and sensitivity. As parents, loving our children is not enough. We need to love, accept and respect them unconditionally.
Many a times, as parents, we either consciously or unconsciously expressed conditional love and care to our children. It’s like “ if I do this to you, I expect this in return” or “ if you do not listen to me, then I don’t love you”.
Unconditional love is rare and endangered nowadays. To love unconditionally is to love without a personal agenda. It means the willingness and ability to extend ourselves to accept someone for who they are and not what they have done or not done. It is loving and accepting someone without expecting anything in return. It is respecting a person who is worthy in their own ways. It is accepting a person’s strengths and weaknesses. It is the only ingredient for a human being to grow and achieve their full potential.
But where can we find unconditional love?
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
